It started with small things. I'd make her coffee in the morning, or help her with the groceries. I'd listen to her talk about her day, and show genuine interest in her thoughts and feelings. I'd surprise her with small gifts, or write her sweet notes. At first, it felt a little awkward, like I was trying to force it. But as I kept at it, it started to feel more natural.
She’s not rejecting you. She’s protecting a younger version of herself who learned long ago that needing love was dangerous. After a month of showering my mother with love ...
In most observed cases, the "showering" approach—an unceasing supply of validation and attention—is unsustainable and often masks underlying boundary issues that resurface aggressively once the intensive period ends. It started with small things
You think you are being generous. You think you are doing them a favor. You are the benefactor, the philanthropist, the strong one doling out affection to a poor soul who hasn’t gotten enough. I'd surprise her with small gifts, or write her sweet notes